The truth is, I have been trying to do this every so often. I start reading a little here, searching the internet a little there, and get email messages from an adoption Ya.hoo group that I signed up for...but the more I read, the more uncertain I become. I feel like there is this mass amount of information out there that I can barely wade through, while at the same time there is so little information on issues that I have begun to care deeply about.
How does one adopt whose first priority is family preservation (which feels contradictory to even write)? How does one adopt who wants the best, most ethical, and most impartial treatment of expectant mothers? But as I think about it and my mind moves around in circles, I do think there are instances of women who need to place their child for adoption - I am just nervous about how to find that in the most ethical manner possible.
So I'm turning to you as a starting point. We are considering domestic infant adoption at this time. Do you have first or second hand knowledge of an adoption agency or attorney that you would like to share? A few things to consider:
- Like I said above, one area that I am particularly looking to get information on is the treatment of expectant mothers. I know most of you will be on the adoptive parent side of things, but if you know anything about this I would love to hear it.
- We would love to work with an agency or attorney who fully supported open adoption.
- We live in Southern California. I know there are nationwide agencies, but in light of wanting to maintain an open adoption, it just feels like this would be best if the adoption took place relatively near our home. I don't expect you to research if your agency has a branch here, but thought I would throw that out there - especially for you CA ladies.
Lastly, I will not publish angry or rude comments. :)