Tuesday, June 1, 2010

Happier, more light-hearted changes

After the BFN:

  • I bought us tickets to see a concert at the Hol.lywood B.owl in September. It's nothing big, but it's also something we don't typically do. Especially because I always end up with the thought, "We shouldn't do that because what if we are in the middle of a cycle then? Or, even better, what if I am really sick in the first trimester?" No more. We are going to a concert!
  • My skin has gotten kind of terrible. Hormones? I have no idea, but I have always had pretty normal and ok skin that didn't break out. But now it's red and blotchy. I got some new skin products and make-up and have been enjoying trying them out.
  • Youth ministry is on "summer break" which I always really like. We still meet weekly for youth group and other activities, but I am not "in charge" and don't have to plan a weekly Bible study for my group. I look forward to spending time with my girls in a more casual way and having less responsibility for a few months.
  • I'm reading the Twilight series. I honestly didn't like the first one until the action happened at the end, but it's fun and an easy read. Plus my youth group girls like to talk about it. :) I also got two other books in queue for after this series is finished that I am excited to get to.
  • We're talking about taking a 'big trip' in the fall. We've never done a 'big trip' with just the two of us, and it would be to celebrate our 5th anniversary this year. We're thinking maybe the UK? We'll see if we have the money to go, but it's fun to have the possibility out there...
  • I started acupuncture yesterday. I really liked the acupuncturist and did find it relaxing, so I am glad that has started. She specializes in reproductive acupuncture which is what I was looking for, and is very familiar with ART. However, telling her our infertility history left me extra sad (which I know I already am these days....), and then when she told me all of the things I shouldn't eat I got even sadder (namely coffee, wine, and ice cold water). Silly, I know, but I am feeling like a big baby about not having these things. I always give up coffee and wine while cycling, but to have to do it indefinitely...?! Do you follow their dietary recommendations? Anyway, I left feeling sad but am honestly looking forward to doing this and hope it will at least help all my crazy spotting issues.
  • Um, sorry, I know this is supposed to be a happy list....
  • We have had/ are having 3 different friends visit and stay with us. So much fun and the good kind of exhausting to host them. Currently my best friend from high school is staying with us with her two daughters (ages 3 & 5). Sorry I am getting behind on commenting - life has just been crazy lately, but this coming weekend will be really mellow.

18 comments:

Lindsey H said...

Good luck with the acupuncture! If you're in LA, I wonder if you're seeing the same woman I saw for acu. Is she in Santa Monica?

I didn't totally stick to the dietary recommendations, but *almost* and it did help me see some results from the acu, I think. Didn't get me pregnant, but I was sleeping a lot better at night and having less anxiety. :)

Good for you for making some fun plans! One of the hardest things for me about IF has been almost WANTING to put my life on hold while I'm in the midst of this.

infertilefollies said...

I am from LA and so jealous you are going to HBowl! Aghhh that is so freakin awesome.

GO GO GO on that trip. Seriously go. Don't go into debt for it, but save up and go. We went to Europe for our "pre-baby" trip (ha ha ha that was in 2006) and it was unforgettable. Now we are planning a tropical vacation for our next pre-baby trip. For reals this time! (Well I can hope, right?)

Betty Rubble said...

OOH the UK! Do you have your passports?? Get them now even if this is a maybe so you don't have to wait!

What a great list! Living life! How fabulous!!!

Leah said...

I hope you and your hubby are able to take a trip to the UK or someplace fun in the fall. My hubby and I went to Ireland last fall, kind of to celebrate our 5 year, and kind of to mourn our last IVF. It was so wonderful to just get away from the infertility reality for a while.

gringa78 said...

I think acupuncture is a wonderful thing...it helped me more mentally than physically, I think, and for that reason alone it was worth it. So glad to hear you're going. Also, I never gave up wine...i had a glass the night before my last ET. I don't see how a glass or two here and there can hurt...you're going through something really stressful and profound...how can they deny you a glass of wine??!! Hang in there, hun...I'm thinking of you.

Heather said...

I did acupuncture a couple of times, but didn't stick to the dietary reccomendation...there are just some things that keep me sane, you know?? :)

Sounds like you have some great things coming up! Excited for you!

Rach said...

Lots of great things coming up! I find that it really helps me to have some future things planned, gives me something to look forward to.

Ernie said...

Ice cold water? I have never heard of that one! I gave up on caffeine and really cut back on alcohol when I was trying to stop my constant bleeding. I didn't see much of a change from that though, but it might be worth a shot for a cycle or two.

Ami said...

Hillary, I have admit, your concern about going to a concert in the middle of a cycle made me smile. Back in October of 2008, some girl friends and I had gotten tickets to a NKOTB concert! ( Yes, I admit it). I was right in the middle of a cycle, so I actually had to train one of my friends to give me a shot which we ended up doing in a bathroom stall at the Cracker Barrel! It was a pretty funny event! If you're even mildly interested in reading it, just type in NKOTB in the search bar on my blog. And my point is, LIFE MUST GO ON! Have fun at that concert whether you're cycling or not! :)

Ami
www.bunchbabies.blogspot.com

Hannah said...

Glad you have so many things planned! Hope the concert is a blast!

Mellow said...

Living life is good, even when it hurts sometimes. Thinking of you, hope you are finding joy in the days ahead.

kdactyl said...

Hillary...I drug my IVF meds all over the place with me...life still had to happen. Wes and I would have an ice chest full of viles and needles and would joke about how we would explain this to a cop if we got pulled over. I've done shots in the car, in public restrooms, while camping...you name it....just go for it and have fun. It makes the waiting so much easier.


And...accupuncture...I followed my Dr.s instructions to a T. I figured this time in my life is soooo short and it is sooo important to me...I looked at it as one of my first sacrifices as a mother. And...you know I now have a healthy 2 year old and a healthy 2nd pregnancy going on now....so don't look at it as giving something up....look at it as a gift to you and your baby for the healthiest you you can be as you enter this next cycle. :-). There are rewards for you ahead...

Enjoy all your upcoming plans...if you can get to Europe at all...it is sooo awesome. We went in 2005 to Italy and it was the best vacation we ever had (other than our wedding and honeymoon in Maui).

Hugs,
kd

sara said...

Love the happy list... The bowl will be fabulous!! I pray the holiday happens...it would be so good to celebrate your marriage and the past five years!

Missy said...

We are also planning a trip for our 5th anniversary. We are going to Ireland. One thing about the expense. The economic crisis in Euro countries is depressing the Euro, making it cheaper for us to go now.

I am trying to follow the dietary recommendations of my acupuncturist. I am cutting out coffee and alcohol, trying to eat more meat. Which is taking a bite out of our budget b/c I also want to get rid of hormones in most meat.

Kelli said...

Fun! I am so jealous of the anniversary trip! I've never been out of the country (except to Canada, which doesn't count!) :)

Have fun, make memories, and live it up! xoxo

Ashley said...

I don't understand the ice water, but I guess just think of giving up the wine and coffee now so it will be easier when you're pregnant? My acupuncture lady didn't give me a whole lot of restrictions. Just the coffee one. Sounds like a wonderful anniversary trip!

addingtothepack said...

I am glad you booked the trip. I put off a lot of stuff because of maybe being pregnant on X date, but then I decided that I'd be happy to cancel any plans if I did end up pregnant and in the meantime we were going to live life. Yay for a fabulous trip!

Mrs. Green said...

I know this must be a hard journey for you, but I am glad that you are keeping yourself occupied - even in the sad times. I will be sure to keep you and hubby in my prayers! "Nothing happens before its time" is a saying that my mother always told me. It can be kind of comforting.

Anyway, I do have a new "future mommy" blog up! Pls check it out. I m sure we could swap stories! awaitingourgreenbean.blogspot.com