I went into my WTF appointment today with a decent list of questions, but honestly I have been pretty happy with how both of my cycles have played out....minus the BFNs, of course.
Turns out my RE is in agreement with my assessment that other than the fact that I am not pregnant, he has been really pleased with my cycles and sees no red flags. He didn't think there was a need for any of the testing or surgery options I asked about. He wouldn't really change anything if we cycled again and thinks it's just a matter of time.
So, I don't know. Part of me feels like a "bad" IFer for just accepting that we've had "bad luck" for two cycles, but I am really content to trust my RE on this. DH & I wholeheartedly trust him, and we know by limiting fertilization we may not have picked the "right" egg each time. And there really aren't any other tests to do that I have seen listed that would change our treatment plan. (ie I asked about sperm fragmentation testing, but the RE asked if that would change what we would do (ie donor sperm or stop treatments)? No, it wouldn't...) Any suggestions on testing I haven't thought about?
So, the plan is to use our frozen eggs and do a frozen cycle. This was the only thing I was not expecting - I thought we would move forward with another fresh cycle because the odds are better. But he thinks we should give it a try with the frozen because it will be easier on us and cheaper.
He said we could get going on a frozen cycle as soon as I get AF, but I'm not sure about it. First of all, after every medicated cycle I spot for the ENTIRE month afterwards. I forgot to mention this today, so I'll give the RE a call, but that seems problematic for an FET, right? Also, I just don't know if I would be crazy to jump right into another cycle. Honestly it gives me a little hope back to start right away, but another part of me wonders if I should take time to heal from the last BFN. Decisions, decisions.
Oh, and I'm also going to start doing acupuncture! He gave me a few suggestions for acupuncturists when I asked, but only one is in my city. I looked her up and she left the practice she used to be in and now is a "substitute" for other acupuncturists or does house calls. I'd rather go to a regular clinic and also be able to use my insurance, which I *think* will cover the acupuncture. So...I googled and found a few places that say they specialize in infertility, but how do I know? Suggestions?
Lastly, I guess after two failed IVFs the RE gets worried about your emotional state. He asked us a number of times how we are doing and offered to refer us to counseling. He also offered to discount the FEggT after he discusses it with the administration, and did not charge us for today's appointment. And the nurses all smiled at is apologetically as we walked through the hall. I think we will be getting some extra special attention from now on...