Tuesday, December 8, 2009

Dis.neyland dilemma

First of all, I have to say what a treat it was to read your comments on my spiritual musings post! It was funny, though, so many of you said I have so much faith, but I saw my lack of faith woven throughout the post - like how I try to 'outsmart' God! Haha! But by his grace he is giving me faith each day, and I thank you for your encouragements.

Now, onto my dilemma. There's some background info, so bear with my while I explain.

I have a half-brother who is quite a bit older than me (12 years, to be exact). He and my dad (and thus, my family) were not in contact with him for a ten year period while I was in high school/ college, but he got married 5 years ago and our connection was re-established. Needless to say, with such limited contact, he is my brother but he is also like an acquaintance. DH, my parents, and I went out to visit him & his wife 2 years ago, and now they are coming out here to visit us this weekend. It is so good that we are all re-connecting (especially for my dad & brother's relationship!), so I am thankful they are coming out. But it's also a little nerve wracking, if you get my drift. :)

All that to say...we are going to Dis.neyland with them this Friday, since they live out of state and that is something they want to do. Normally, I would be so excited to do this - I love Dis.neyland but don't go very often, and it will be so pretty and festive for Christmas! It will also be a fun way to hang out with everyone. But there's one thing...

I will be 11dpo. And there are rides there that say not to ride if you are pregnant. What the heck does that mean for somebody nearing the end of their tww who could be pregnant but is also infertile so is probably not pregnant? It's such a mind game!

I asked my RE about this at the IUI, and he said to go on any rides I want and that it won't effect the cycle. He was very kind but I'm sure he viewed my question as one of those "crazy-infertile-lady-over-thinking-ever-little-thing" questions. But wouldn't you guys think twice about this, too?

So here are the options I can think of....what would you do?

1. Follow my RE's advice and not worry about it. Go on any ride. (Downside: I can't help but fear causing the embryo to not implant or something if there was an embryo!)

2. Take an HPT at 11dpo. If positive, don't go on any of the risky rides. If negative, go on whatever rides I want. (Downside: I don't really want to test at my parents' house and then have to spend the day at Disn.eyland with everyone if it's negative....or positive for that matter. Plus, it may still be too early and thus not accurate, and this still allows for the downside from option #1)

3. Don't take the risk. Sit out from all the risky rides. (Downside: Um, how do I explain this to my family? We haven't told them about all of our IF stuff. This would be awkward, but maybe I would just have to fess up?)

4. Some other idea??

Am I being a ridiculous infertile? Help! :)

30 comments:

Baby Wanted said...

#2 take the HPT early

Andrea said...

You are so not being rediculous. My advice is to go and enjoy yourself. Don't test, just go and have a nice time. Ride the rides that are slow and easy if that eases your mind. Its so easy to work yourself up and try to be mindful of "anything" that could endanger your odds

I used to fret over everything and wouldn't even take a sip of wine when I was in the 2ww. I recently realized that I was putting my life on hold and tip toeing through it trying to be Mrs. Safe all the time. Now, I've vowed to reclaim my life and do things in moderation, take it easy when I can and not get myself all worked up.

Just have fun and follow your own good intuition :)

Hugs!

Melissa G said...

You're totally not being ridiculous. I turned down a trip this Thanksgiving because I wasn't sure. But I also hadn't asked my RE about it. I think your concern is completely reasonable.

That said, if my RE told me that it was safe I would probably go on the bulk of the rides, but maybe avoid rides like the Teacups...

UGH, I'm so jealous!!! I love Disneyland in general - but Disneyland at Christmastime? It's even more enchanting... I say go, have a wonderful time, and eat a Corndog for me!!! (At the stand at the end of Main Street) =)

Krystal said...

I'm thinking if your RE said not to worry about it, then ride to your heart's content! Think of how many women probably ride before they even know they're pregnant!

wait, what? said...

Not ridiculous! You are probably fine to go on the rides like RE advised. Don't be too hard on yourself.

Amanda said...

I would be exactly where you are and to be honest, I doubt anything would make me 100% comfortable with going on the rides. I don't know what to tell you. I doubt there is a wrong here, so do what you are comfortable with.

The Wife said...

I can understand your fear. The DH and I had a kayak rolling class the weekend after we got our BFP. I was freaking out so much that that morning i was this >< close to not going. But I went and had a great time and truthfully the baby was probably none the wiser. My advice is basically not to let IF take one more thing from you.

Leah said...

I would follow your RE's advice. Logically, if you are pregnant, going on rides won't hurt you. Something I've learned through all of this is we can't quit living our lives because we MIGHT be pregnant. Live how you would always live, because the truth is, if it's going to happen, it's going to happen, and going on rides won't ruin that.

Buck said...

To help you get out of the high-impact rides, if you want:

1. Headache
2. Slept funny - crick in the neck
3. Quesy stomach from a bad breakfast

But I agree with what others have said - most wouldn't even know to suspect yet so just try to enjoy the day!

Amber said...

I'm thinking of how many things "normal" women do before they ever know they're pregnant and things turn out fine! I'm betting rollercoasters are one of them. Take the HPT just so you know. And have fun!!!

A said...

Could you say you will sit with the kids (if they are too small to ride the rollercoasters)? That being said, I would probably go on the rides anyway ;-) Especially if your RE said it was fine. I think at this point your baby is so tucked inside that he/she is very well protected. It's different when your 8 months with a big belly, I think!!

WantWait&Pray said...

Hmm..I think I'd make up a tiny white lie about how I slept weird last night and have a backache.
I think I'd go on rides that aren't super crazy...for rides that you feel questionable about- just say you think it might bother your back so as much as you hate to...you'll sit out.

A said...

PS. I thought I had read that he had kids, but then I re-read and he doesn't! Oops! Also, I think I never commented on your faith post, but I did read it- it was very thought-provoking!!

Anonymous said...

my husband and i were TTC for 1 year exactly. we were on our 13th month of trying naturally before going on clomid. On that 13th month, right around 12-14dpo or so i was jumping like a little kid on a trampoline. A week later i got a positive HPT. IT's possible that all the jerking around actually 'helped' with implantation :). I wouldn't worry... i think those disclaimers are for women who are further along with their pregancies.

entrusted said...

Emotionally, I know you want to avoid anything that even seems the slightest bit risky right now. But rationally... Your RE is right. By 11dpo, an embryo has either implanted or it hasn't. If it's implanted, no roller coaster could shake it off! And like previous comments have said, if you weren't immersed in IF and hyper-aware of the possibilities, you'd go on the rides like all the other oblivious fertile people out there.
Now, whether the emotional logic or the rational logic prevails - that's up to you! For me, sometimes one wins out, and sometimes the other.

Rach said...

#2 If positive HPT skip all the "thrill" rides.

How fun to go to Disney! Their attention to detail is amazing and Im sure the park is just beautiful this time of year! Have fun!

Anonymous said...

Maybe being flipped upsidedown will help things along. Maybe being twirled upside down is the one thing that you haven't tried yet.

Just a thought
Trina

Melis.sa said...

i would test :)

i avoided rides at the mall of america during the 2ww-and they were pretty mild. my bff knew we were trying though, so it wasn't a big deal.

Shanny said...

Definitely #2!

And you are absolutely not being ridiculous, I would totally be thinking about the same thing. And since the RE said its ok, IF and only IF the HPT is negative I would be having a blast on those rides! Hope there isn't much ackwardness going on with your family and have fun =)

One Who Understands said...

I don't think it is ridiculous at all! You have spent all this time and money, it would be strange not to think about it.

I would go with your RE's advice. If he says it's ok, then it is. Go and enjoy yourself.

Anonymous said...

I think those warnings on the rides are purely to take the liability off the amusement park just in case something happens. I think there is almost a 0% chance of a roller coaster being able to affect a pregnancy (but I doubt I'd test that theory at 8-9 months.) I say go and have fun!

Lin said...

Not ridiculous at all...I completely understand the concern. However, I think you can trust your RE, though maybe just avoid the super-high impact rides if it makes you feel more comfortable. Just say you don't like roller coasters or you have a headache.

I am anti-early tester. However, there have been some instances wehre I've tested early to give me peace of mind. This may be one of those for you. Consider testing at 10DPO...late enough that the bean has probably implanted or not and with a day for you to be mad at the world before you go to Disney.

Have fun!! I'm a bit jealous of your Disney trip, as well. Disney at Christmastime...nothing better!

Tabitha said...

I vote for number 1 and/or 2. I have to remind myself all the time when weighing these decisions that pregnant girls all over the world get pregant and don't even know it...which means they do it without sticking thier legs up in the air after sex, without watching what they eat and what they do, and without stressing over it! So go have FUN!

Mandy said...

Hi, came across your blog through a friend's.

I'm the type to worry a lot too. But I say live life to the fullest and go on the rides and have fun! I wasn't going to post but after seeing the trampoline comment I decided to! My mom had infertility for many years, they adopted my brother, and then by surprise got pregnant with me a few years later. She was already around 3 months along when she found out, and thinking back she realized she had been jumping on the trampoline a lot trying to lose the few extra pounds she had been gaining. She said if she had known she was pregnant she wouldn't have been jumping around like that! But it didn't hurt anything.

Blessings on your journey.

Priscilla said...

I'd trust your RE and have all the fun you'd like!!! (If implantation is going to happen, chances are it will by 11DPO and a HPT my not show a + yet.) Have fun and try not to worry...even though its impossible.

One more thing... My RE explained that the uterus is like a gravityless space. I'm sure that a couple roller coasters wont effect the chances of implantation. Think of all the non-IF women who run daily and get pregnant....thats a whole lot more bouncing than a roller coaster will cause!! :)

Kelli said...

I like #2 :)

April 2008 I was going to Busch Gardens with my sisters and I tested "just in case" and it was positive - I told them I didn't want to go on any of the rides in case I was pregnant...they gave me a hard time, but I didn't feel comfortable going on and taking risks.

So...that my two, okay - five cents.

Bottom line - have fun spending time with family and reconnecting even more!

xo

Missy said...

I say go and have fun. Your RE said it is fine and so it probably is. I think the warnings are more for people who are farther along than 11 days.

addingtothepack said...

I'd go and have fun. I'd rather spend the day imagining it might be my baby's first trip to Disneyworld than mad at the universe over a BFN.

Nicole said...

I am a HUGE worrier, then add IF and it's a bad combo. I personally would probably HPT before, and then... honestly... regardless of the result I would play sick or something. The "dangerous" rides can probably be avoided by saying you ate something yucky and don't want to spew it, or that you slept weird and your back is killing you.
When in doubt, always fake sick. :) But I don't think if you do go you should feel awful about it. I just personally am ridiculous, as you say lol
Good luck deciding

AplusB said...

I say go have fun, don't test, just live in the moment! I think it would be too early even if you were pregnant to test positive and/or do any damage. But, of course, you have to do what you feel is right. Either way, have a great time, Disney Land is such a magical place!